The Opposite of Loneliness: Essays and Stories by Marina Keegan
My rating: 3 of 5 stars
This book was hauntingly beautiful and strange to read.
Mariana Keegan was a literary student at Yale with a keen sense of life at a very young age. Mariana died in a car accident and this book shows what an awful loss it was for the whole world.
The Opposite of Loneliness is a collection of Mariana’s fiction and non-fiction stories. It is a touching tribute to a beautiful writer.
I found the stories to be engaging and terrific. I especially loved the fiction ones. You could tell that Mariana used a lot of her real life interactions to create these lovable characters in such a short period of time. I would have loved to read a full book of these characters that she created.
The non-fiction ones were a bit harder for me to connect with, but there were real and honest and very touching.
I also think that the family and friends that created this book did an outstanding job of creating this theme for a book from writings of a creative young girl who never meant to create such a theme. Its so interesting that her writings can all tie into this greater understanding of human nature and what its like to be lonely and also what its like to be the opposite of lonely.
I commend this family and friends for creating this art, because I cannot imagine how hard it must have been to create such a personal experience for everyone to read.
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This article hit home for me. I know I haven’t talked a lot about the mom role but my blog is “Balancing Emma” for a reason. It is hard for me, like mind boggling hard to do this balancing act called life, but I am learning everyday that I am not alone in this crazy thing called life.
I am finding that I am having a hard time being MOM and WIFE. If I leave my daughter for the night with a babysitter, I feel guilty because I was a work all day and didn’t get to see her, (in there is also the feeling I have that other people are judging me because I should be home) But if I skip the social event to be home with my daughter, then I am sad that I don’t get to spend time socially with my husband. I would have never thought I would feel this literal guilt when you leave your child home with a perfectly competent and loving person to go enjoy myself for the night, but it is there and it is so hard to swallow. This article made me feel a little better about myself, made me feel like I am not alone in this battle, and not a bad mom for wanting to go out to dinner with my husband.
It is funny because I am normally a fairly logical person, I just have to tell myself that I am a good mom and stop worrying about people and I know that. I know that I am a good Mom and that my daughter loves me and I love her, but after you have a kid you get this crazy complex that makes me think that it will never be enough. You ask yourself all those haunting questions- What if this is affecting her, what if she is sad that I am not there, what if she feels neglected and put out because I am not there to put her to bed? All these questions run through my mind and its hard, really hard to find the answers to them.
So Balancing Emma is still a work in progress just like my daughter and my husband and our lives right now. I know it will be ok for us in the end but reading things like this article make it easier, so thank to you Huffington Post for posting this and helping me to understand that its ok to put Wife before Mom sometimes.
I am interested to see if I get any feedback from this post. I read a lot online about mothers and I have a feeling there is a portion of them that think this is totally backwards and I am interested to see how people feel about it.
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